Bar None

By Lindsey Metselaar

We can all agree that modern dating has become lazy. We’re defaulting to drinks at a bar because it requires minimal effort and no creativity. Then, we don’t end up connecting with someone as the conversation stays on the surface because we’re just sitting and drinking. Bars are loud, brash, and transactional. If you want to really get to know a date and connect, you should tap into the culture of this town and utilize the amazing experiences that are available to you. Here are some ideas to try instead of that run-of-the-mill drink at the bar!

1. Take a farmer’s market stroll. Why are we living in Palm Beach if we’re not taking advantage of the outdoors? A farmer’s market is not only aesthetically pleasing, but it’s a great place to spark discussion on different foods and get in some steps. Try the West Palm Beach GreenMarket, Royal Palm Beach Green Market and Bazaar, and the Gardens GreenMarket. If the date goes well, maybe you can plan on cooking a meal together in the future and debate what ingredients you would use.

2. Have dinner at a hot spot. I personally love a dinner date, especially if you’re going out with someone you share mutual friends with or have met before. This way, if you’re not vibing with your date, you’ll at least have a delicious meal. I personally love Buccan and Imoto, but you can’t go wrong with most restaurants in Palm Beach.

3. Enjoy a workout. Whether it’s just a walk, a Pilates class, or hitting the gym together, a workout is a great way to activate those endorphins we’re all chasing. Plus, you can hit up my favorite local juice bar, Celis, for some post-workout protein. I’d reserve this for more of a second or third date instead of a first, though.

4. View some art at a museum or gallery. There are events going on all the time in Palm Beach. Hit up the opening of a new exhibition at a museum or just go gallery hopping around the island. There’s nothing wrong with a daytime date. People are moving toward dating without having the dates centered around alcohol, and appreciating art together is a perfect departure from that.

5. Hit the beach. I love the idea of a date by the ocean. A little vitamin D is what everyone needs, and sitting under an umbrella together is so romantic. Ditch the books for the day and you can go deep with a one-on-one conversation.

6. Laugh at a comedy show. Sharing a laugh is a great opportunity to get to know someone. What do they chuckle at? What do they think is not okay to joke about? How plugged in are they to what’s going on in the world? A comedy show can usually shed light on all of that—plus, you’ll get to laugh and release that mood-boosting oxytocin!

Dating doesn’t have to be so linear. I hope you try these alternative date ideas, and DM me to tell me how they go! For more dating, couples, and relationship tips, you can follow @wemetatacme on Instagram and listen to “We Met at Acme” wherever you find your podcasts.