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Real Estate with Diane Saatchi: The One That Got Away

Diane Saatchiby Diane Saatchi
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Real Estate with Diane Saatchi: The One that Got Away

When most people think back to the one that got away, they think about relationships.

 

I think about real estate.

 

After 35 years of selling real estate, I’ve seen more instances of homebuyers and sellers getting fixated on the one that got away than you’d think. For buyers, it could be that perfect three-bedroom waterfront cottage that was snapped up the day after they viewed it.

 

In cases like these, the one that got away isn’t just a quiet reminiscence — it’s a shadow that falls over the months and even years to come, making it difficult if not impossible for would-be buyers to find something that measures up to what they had, or thought they had, before.

 

I’ve written before that real estate deals are wrought with emotion because most people aren’t buying or selling a house. They’re buying or selling a home. On the surface, we are dealing with the sale and purchase of a product, but in actuality, we are trading the sellers’ memories for the buyers’ dreams, along with the associated baggage.

 

In fact, particularly in the buyers’ case, the feeling that the house you didn’t get is the only house you could love is almost entirely emotional. Practicality might go right out the window. For one thing, buyers regularly respond to decor (which is why staging is so important, but that’s another conversation. Perhaps a buyer will come to me with a non-negotiable requirement for their next house, like a bathroom for every bedroom, or enough space upstairs to accommodate six grandchildren at a time. But when they start looking at available houses, they fall in love with one that has nothing resembling their “non-negotiable” needs yet looks like somewhere they could “see themselves.” They keep looking, but if the house is snapped up by someone else they’re devastated: It’s the one that got away.

 

But if you ask me? In many cases, they may not have bought that house even if they could have. There’s a reason they didn’t make an immediate offer, and a little more thinking probably would have made them realize that their non-negotiables were non-negotiable for a reason: They needed them!

 

Plus, that house most likely wasn’t as incredible as they remember. Over time, buyers idealize it until they’ve completely forgotten about the reasons why they stalled.

 

And to be really frank, sometimes it’s easier to have a house that “got away” than not — it’s a built-in excuse not to take the plunge into buying a house and throwing your life into upheaval, what with financing, closing and moving. A perfectly suitable house currently available just doesn’t have the magic, something that was unique to the house that got away. If they aren’t truly ready for the next house, they can put off buying indefinitely without having to decide they do not want to.

 

The commonality of the house that got away comes from the fact that many buyers are always looking over their shoulders: How do we know this is the best house we can get right now? How do we know something better won’t come along? What if we go into contract, and then the perfect house presents itself? Apparently, this is very common and is not only a real estate-related condition. There was an article in The New York Times about the fear of better options (FOBO). It’s a phenomenon. Who knew? 

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