When Health Meets Heart

By Lindsey Metselaar

The wellness craze is top of mind these days. But can it lead to finding your dream mate? The answer might be closer than you think. Wellness is all the rage right now. But when it comes to our dating lives, how do we know which wellness trends to tune out and which ones to focus on? I sifted through all the noise so you don’t have to! The key to anything that will lead to love is doing it for yourself first and foremost, and the love will follow. Here are five steps to lead the way.

1. Therapy, therapy, therapy. Working on yourself is and always will be the first step to attracting someone. The more we work on ourselves, the more of a catch we will be. Everyone is looking for a partner with self- Use therapy to heal any past wounds, boost your emotional intelligence and self-awareness, and improve your relationship skills. As we heal relationships with people in our own lives, we will be able to show up the right way when love appears.

2. Practice mindfulness. For almost a decade now mindfulness has been a buzzword, and for good reason. When we are mindful, we understand what it means to stay present. Staying present is crucial on dates and during the dating process itself. With our phones in our hands 24/7, being in the moment is a lost art and something that will definitely make you stand out.

3. Focus on your physical health. Moving your body isn’t about looking good, it’s actually more about feeling good than anything else. And it’s about accountability. There’s nothing sexier than a person who says they’re going to do something and actually does it. Exercise can be that accountability coach that you’re needing. Plus, it boosts your confidence, energy, and mood.

4. Journaling. Children of the ’90, you’ll be happy to know that journaling is back. It can be amazing in so many different ways. You can manifest the person you want to call into your life, you can write positive affirmations to yourself, or you can simply keep a dating diary. However you want to use your journal, putting pen to paper is effective during your journey to find love. It helps you to identify your dating patterns, values, and truly what you want in a relationship. One of my favorite writing exercises is to make a list of your wants vs. your needs in a partner.

5. Expand your social world. You can do all of these wellness practices, but if you aren’t seeing other people, you’ll never meet anyone! You have to be proactive in your social life. Join a walking club, attend a dating event (we host them all the time), or volunteer! Be a yes person who isn’t afraid to go somewhere where you don’t know someone and make a new friend or two. You never know who might turn into more.

These methods will help you attract a love that you deserve. But don’t forget, these are for yourself first and foremost. The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself. For more dating and couples tips, you can follow @wemetatacme on Instagram or tune in to “We Met at Acme” wherever you listen to podcasts. Be well!